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The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and apply this
secret. The result? Millions of people are suffering undeserved
stress, trials, problems, and heartache. They never seem to be a
success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem
to be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of
joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time, anger
breaks friendships, and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to

the fullest.. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems
cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged.
You can be different!. Understand and apply the 90/10 secret.

It will change your life! What is this secret?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is
decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of
what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking

down. The plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole
schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We

have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You
determine the other 90%! How? By your reaction.

You cannot control a red light, but you can control your
reaction. Don't let people fool you, YOU can control how

you react! Let's use an example.

You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks
over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You

have no control over what just happened. What happens next
will be determined by how you react.

You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the
coffee cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her,
you turn to your spouse and criticize them for placing the cup

to close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.
You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs
you find your daughter has been to busy crying to finish
breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your
spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the

car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late,
you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15
minute delay and throwing $60 away, you arrive at school.
Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you

forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it
continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look

forward to going home. When you arrive home you find small
wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the Policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is d. You had no control over what happened with
the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what
caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should
have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You
gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful
next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing

a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time
look through the window and see your child getting on

the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss
before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and

cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good of
day you are having.

Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the
same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you
REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of
what happens. The other 90% is determined by your

reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret.

If someone says something negative about you, do not be
sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You do have
to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it
will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing
a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you
loose your temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A friend of
mine had the steering wheel fall off!) Do you curse? Does your
blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO
CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the
blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10 principle, and do
not worry about it!

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated?
It willwork out. Use your "worrying" energy and time into
finding another job.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the
day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant?
She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to
study,

get to know the other passenger, etc. Why get stressed out? It
will just make things worse.

You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be
amazed at the results.

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